Be like the Earth (The Power of Self-Approval)
Posted on 22. Jan, 2010 by Jeffrey Platts in Archives, Self Empowerment
Do you ever find yourself seeking someone’s approval? Or trying to “prove your worth” to someone you really like (or maybe even don’t like)? I know I’ve had my moments.
Well, check this out right here: When you try to “prove” something, you are implying that it’s currently not true. I don’t see any scientists out there trying to prove that the earth is round. That’s because it’s a given that the Earth is round.
People can sense when you’re trying to kiss their ass. Your doubting yourself often just turns into them doubting you. And it’s just exhausting for everyone. Like the woman who says to the guy “I think you’re just too good for me.” Eventually the guy is gonna agree with her. And if they somehow actually feel good about themselves by you kissing their ass? Well, that’s not exactly the foundation of a healthy relationship.
The more confident you are in your own truth, the less it matters whether or not anyone agrees with you. – Alan Cohen
So let go of this whack notion that you need to prove you’re worthy of someone else’s time, love or attention. Even if you DO get the approval, it’s from outside of you, so it’s out of your control and that person could disapprove of you in the very next moment. But your own approval is totally under your control. Do your best to go into a conversation, a date or an interview fully connected with the goodness, beauty and brilliance that is already YOU. Assume your own value.
Be like the Earth. It knew it was round the whole time. It wasn’t waiting around for some ignorant homo-sapiens to finally agree.
3 Questions:
- In what ways and situations do you observe yourself seeking approval from people?
- Is it giving you the ultimate outcome you want?
- What could you do to feel more connected to your own inherent goodness next time you find yourself in a similar situation?
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Lauren
22. Jan, 2010
excellent point!! and well-written.
Urban Hippie
23. Jan, 2010
Super great yet again. You should be a life coach.
Piera
01. Feb, 2010
Awesome post! I often would find myself caught in my Ego self trying to make others happy. It truly never works for all involved. For those I was seeking approval from I just ito thier Ego and never truly gained thier respect. How could they respect someone that didn’t respect themselves? When one seeks anything from the external it is short lived and an illusion that only strengthens a wounded personal ego. Thanks for this
bellatri´x
22. Mar, 2010
i wish i could be more strong, believe in myself..
its all so easy to read, but then actually to stand up for yourself
in a weak moment
is hard if impossible..
Jeffrey Platts
23. Mar, 2010
@bellatri´x: I agree, that many times it’s not easy to do. It just takes practice. Take the time to care for yourself and make sure you’re thinking thoughts that bring you emotional relief rather than thoughts that bring you stress. And surrounding yourself with positive people that support you and are good influences.
Wishing you well!
Jeffrey
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