Microwave sex or boiling water sex
Posted on 25. Apr, 2010 by Jeffrey Platts in Archives, Dating, Sex
This is a guest post I wrote for Ask Miss Alpha, a dating blogger that’s fun, sexy and fearless in her approach to life and dating.
Today’s guest post is from one of my (okay my very) favorite dudedatingblogger Jeffrey Platts. He shares a lot of the sexual philosophies touted here and is also becoming a great friend. If you like what you read here, he can also be found here on twitter or in D.C. deejaying, yoga instructing and generally following his own groove…
Microwave Sex or Boiling Water Sex
(And The One Key Ingredient For Both)
Microwave Sex: n. sex that is rapid, intense and hot; starts fast, ends fast.
Boiling Water Sex: n. sex that builds and heats up at a steady pace, exploding into juicy ecstasy.
Both of these sexytime options are awesome. Both have their benefits and are often influenced by the clock or the location. Microwave sex can be great as a quickie before the pizza guy arrives. Boiling water sex can be great for a candlelit evening of kama sutra and chardonnay.
But as a guy, if you really want to make sure the experience is a juicy one for your partner, you’ve gotta add one critical element:
PRESENCE.
To do the full expression of either microwave or boiling water sex, you gotta be present. ”Hold up, Jeffrey, I’m already there in the bed, aren’t I? We’re bumping, we’re grinding. What ELSE am I supposed to do?” Well, for starters, without a connection, it’s like you’re just masturbating with each other. Two pieces of meat banging around and hoping to push the right buttons for a jackpot.
Yes, we are animals. Yes, we have biological and evolutionary instincts. But we are much deeper than that. There is an essence that lives in our bodies. And many teachings say that sexual energy is spiritual energy. To overlook that element is to miss out on a whole level of connection between two people. So, in addition to enjoying the physical pleasure, make love to the woman that is INSIDE the body. Practice getting in sync with her. Letting your energy become one. And the more present you are with her, the more she will trust you and feel safe with you.
I can vividly remember the times when I was having sex with a woman but I was mentally experiencing the event as if I was another person watching it. I was there in the bed and she was there with me, but my mind was not. I was robbing her of my full presence and I was robbing myself of my full experience of her. And I know she could feel it, too. Sorry, ladies. :) But we all evolve and learn from our mistakes, right?
“Because we are spiritual beings at our core, it is the spirit in which we live that makes or breaks our experience. Sex is no exception. Spiritualize your sex by making love to the person inside the body. Embrace all of your partner, and you will enjoy many levels of orgasm simultaneously.” – Alan Cohen
Here are some things to focus on for next time you get it on.
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